I invite you to Serve from your saucer. NOT YOUR CUP.
My cup has not been filled enough to offer my services or shine my light outside of my home and family.
And sometimes I question myself:
“Am I being a perfectionist? Waiting for the “perfect” moment to write the “perfect email?”
“Am I hiding? Waiting till all the obstacles are over… THEN I will share happy content and inspire my community?”
“Or am I just exhausted and sleep deprived? Focusing my energy on sick kids, emotional teenagers, my own emotional and spiritual healing as I tried facing these last 8 weeks head on without sticking my head in the sand?”
YUP. This is the one. This feels like the truth.
The first 2 statements may or may not be true but it doesn’t matter.
Things are far from “perfect”, the challenges and obstacles are NOT OVER and I am making a CHOICE right now to finally reach out and share some of the self care practices I need to start in order to fill my cup.
~I’m exhausted- but empowered.
I made her a hot chamomile tea and while waiting for the tea to cool off, I have her inhale the steam through her nose and mouth to help with her cough.
WE WERE PEACEFUL. Making fun shapes with Kinetic sand she loves to play with.
No more fever and her temperature finally normal after 3 sleepless nights.
I WAS SO HAPPY I no longer had to take her to the doctor to get a school note.
And I finally had the energy and inspiration to write this email! and its New Moon, yay!
I thought I would be able to write this email quickly- and be done by 2pm... just share my New Moon intentions and calendar in an hour…. Sigh….
I have had to stop writing this email many times to tend to my little Violetta.
Temperature is back up. And it looks like she has a little rash.
Here I am finishing this email and sending it right past 11pm.
Its ok though because this small task is a big win for me these days : )
Listen, im not writing all this for you guys to feel sorry for me.
I share this in order to better relate and connect.
To remind myself that I am not alone… WE ARE NOT ALONE in our challenges and obstacles.
And also to remind you and everyone out there (and myself!) its gonna be ok.
Last year was amazing…its seemed like I just flowed.
Sure I had a few hiccups here and there but I manifested things and experiences relatively quick.
But this Winter has been a time of reflection, a bit of “damage control” in my home, putting out “fires” and major Spiritual Expansion. Phew!
And in the middle of these challenges and obstacles it is so easy to get into “victim mode” if we don’t start to take some sort of self care action- and stay committed.
And believe me I have had some of those days feeling sorry for myself and that’s ok too!
There is a fine line between REFLECTING and getting stuck in a Victim Mentality.
So yeah, Honestly, Its been a lil too much… all my emotional wounds came up, not just kids getting sick but I finally dealt with my dentist phobias… and new teenage son issues I wasn’t ready for!!!
Yes. positive thinking and visualization serves a purpose sometimes.. but its purpose is not for us to stick our head in the sand.
I truly believe that every challenge and obstacle serves a PURPOSE
and offers us an opportunity for growth and expansion.
In the middle of the storm when IT ALL SUCKS! is when gratitude serves a purpose.
THIS IS EXACTLY WHEN WE NEED SELF LOVE and SELF CARE... NOT WHEN EVERYTHING IS JUST FINE AND PERFECT.
That's the point of self care right??! To love & nourish ourselves when times are tough.
What do you think about all this?
Would love to know your thoughts!
Ok I told myself I will write a short email… I need to keep this simple because my daughter is coughing a lot and I need to make her another cup of tea.
And I need to start prepping for Dinner.. and I need to "this and that" and then… and then… well you know how it goes right??
No one is immune to “busy-ness”
But no matter what.. we gotta fill our cup...
EVEN IF ITS JUST A FEW DROPS AT A TIME
Ok here we go…
WILL YOU ALL TAKE THESE SELF CARE STEPS WITH ME???
I invite you to CHOOSE ONE OF THESE TASKS TO FOCUS ON:
1. Create a self care list.
What are 1 -3 things you would like to do for yourself daily for the next 5 days?
or choose ONE THING to do this week.
For example I kept my self care list super simple just to get the ball rolling.
I'm committing to these 3 things for the next 5 days:
-1. Track my water intake
-2. Ten minutes of daily yoga (if i do more, awesome!)
-3. 10 minutes of journaling. Thats it!
And my ONE thing for the week is to go to acupuncture. That's If Violetta ends up going back to school this week, if not, ill go next week.
No guilt. No shame. No judgement.
Keep it simple. Do what you can.
2. Create New Moon intentions
Here is a link with suggestions on how to do that.
SELF CARE TIP:
~10 MINUTES OF SELF CARE~
COMMIT to sit down and work on one of these tasks for 10 minutes.
10 minutes of laser focus on YOU. AND USE A TIMER!!
If you have another 10 minutes, keep going.
another 10 minutes, keep going.
This is how I was able to fill my cup this morning.
I have been filling my cup 10 minutes at a time all day today… and I felt so good.. I even stretched myself a bit and completed this email : )
That is all for now... more to come!
PEACE & LOVE!